It amazes me that in times of trouble and stress how we don’t use the help available at our disposal. As unbelievable as it sounds sometimes we don’t want the help and support. We would rather stay in the rut and struggle unnecessarily through situations. When wallowing no one can help themselves or another. Since we are the ones that make our own choices and decide for ourselves, this can only add more post traumatic stress and problems to come. (Not making decisions, is making the decision to do, or not to do, in and of itself.) We really are in charge even when we think we are out of control and not in our right thinking.
Don’t you deserve the very best to help you in difficult times. Instead of ignoring your options or assistance offered; wouldn’t it help you, help yourself and others dependent on you for their own encouragement and upliftment. It becomes a vicious circle of down trodden thinking to support this type of behavior. Where on the energy scale of emotions do you choose to work from in times of aggravated stress. Isn’t it worth it to you to make the best decisions possible during dire life situations, like the passing of a loved one, sudden accidents, financial crises, new and uncharted business decisions, shocking news regarding your children, your family, or cherished relationships. It’s true you may feel hopeless and not care what happens to you at the time, but if you can’t think of yourself; do it for someone else. Clarity in thinking and supporting feelings is crucial at these times.
It’s so hard to come from apathy, grief, fear, lust, anger, and pride and easily move up the scale of emotions to the healthy supportive emotions and feelings that can help you like: Courageousness, Acceptance and Peace. It’s difficult to hang out longer than necessary in the lower emotions without penalty. Post traumatic stress and higher increasing cortisol levels, (cortisol is considered the death hormone) in the blood can cause untold harm. That will not improve your situations. You’ll only have to fix it later on, and it may take longer to get rid of all that the negativity has brought you; if you let it linger. Instead you are feeding fuel to the already unpleasant fire. None of us gets out of this world alive. So we might as well enjoy the ride as much as possible and make the best of it. 
So are you going to love and approve of yourself or are you going to beat yourself up? Does beating yourself up ever solve anything? It makes you feel worse. There is always a cause and an affect. What’s done is done, (spilled milk) as the expression goes. You can’t change what has happened. But you can change how you will move on. One step at a time will just do fine, and get you there. It’s the little things that count.
The Masters know that in that place called pride we hide away what looks fine on the surface. Pride covers many areas. I’ll name a few and see if any apply. I would like to say here that responsibility for your life does not imply blame. Blame is a shame and there is no shame in being as responsible as possible for your own life situations. We do the best we can…and non-judging of yourself is the key. Only you can judge yourself. Be kind to yourself, stop dis-approving of yourself, or your situations. Allowing help or support puts you in charge. To me, the word “Allowing” is one of the most important words for the 21st Century. Not allowing is just as important too. Allowing has a great deal of strength in it.
No matter how much disapproval energy you have received in your life, or how much disapproving of yourself you have done, there is always a new day and a different view or approach if you choose. Why not choose what will help you be all that you desire to become, and in helping yourself you will give be a strength to others as well. We are not Islands unto ourselves. We learn and grow from others and the situations they bring to us in our lives. We may not be able to bring back loves lost or passed on, but we can hold the good and the memories and feel enriched for the gift of having that person in our lives. Celebrate in your own way the good, wherever you find it, and whoever brings it to you…a child, a quote, a flower, a pet, a check, a word of love or appreciation. The gift is you…you are the present to yourself. Be alive, Be here, Be now, and Be present!
I am available here at this website www.LindaCrane.com to help you in any way. There are many choices and ways available to assist you. You just have to contact me.
Blessings,
Linda Crane
Photos By: InAweofGod’sCreation, Andrea_44
